Showing posts with label memoir. Show all posts
Showing posts with label memoir. Show all posts

Tuesday, September 26, 2017

The Life You Save May Be Your Own: Memoirs of Self-Discovery

Girl wearing snorkeling apparatus at the beach. Photography. Britannica ImageQuest, Encyclopædia Britannica, 25 May 2016.
quest.eb.com/search/154_2892984/1/154_2892984/cite. Accessed 8 Sep 2017.
“It's daring to be curious about the unknown, to dream big dreams, to live outside prescribed boxes, to take risks, and above all, daring to investigate the way we live until we discover the deepest treasured purpose of why we are here.” ― Luci Swindoll

What does it take your change your life? We always think the answer can be found in a book. Some folks recommend non-fiction to "help you stop worrying, stop being tired, and stop feeling overwhelmed — and start excelling in your field, embracing life's opportunities for adventure, and being happier every day," with the emphasis on teaching you new behaviors. Some suggest that if you read a book wherein the "end message is that life is filled with possibilities, if you let it be,"or a similar message, can be helpful, even if it's fictional.But sometimes, we think, you just need to read a book that shows that someone has succeeded in changing their life before, in ways you might find galvanizing or might want to emulate.

There is certainly no dearth of titles out there for those looking to prod themselves into making a change - speeding things up, slowing things down, doing things differently. Maybe you've already read inspirational books like Gift from the Sea, Love Warrior, and Rising Strong. Or tales of life-changing adventure such as Under The Tuscan Sun: At Home in Italy,  Eat, Pray, Love: One Woman's Search for Everything Across Italy, India, and Indonesia, and Wild: From Lost to Found on the Pacific Crest Trail. But maybe none of these titles resonated with you, or you just want more ideas. Never fear! We've compiled a list of other books that might help you deal with adversity, start you on a quest, or at least boost your spirits.


H is for Hawk by Helen Macdonald

The Glass Castle by Jeannette Walls

The Year of Magical Thinking by Joan Didion

Tales of a Female Nomad: Living at Large in the World by Rita Golden Gelman [eAudiobook]

A Year By the Sea: Thoughts of an Unfinished Woman by Joan Anderson

Blackout: Remembering the Things I Drank to Forget by Sarah Hepola

Stir: My Broken Brain and the Meals That Brought Me Home by Jessica Fechtor

Girl in the Woods by Aspen Matis

Lit by Mary Karr

Tracks: A Woman's Solo Trek Across 1700 Miles of Australian Outback by Robyn Davidson

Claiming Ground by Laura Bell

Let's Take the Long Way Home: A Memoir of Friendship by Gail Caldwell


List

The Exhilarating Delight of Reading About Women in Search of Themselves [Oprah]

All the best, most kick-ass female memoirs you need to read [Hello Giggles]

The Memoir of Discovery (Not Recovery) [Kirkus]


Thursday, May 25, 2017

Novels and Memoirs About Polygamy

(Image Credit: Book jacket for The Polygamous Wives Writing Club: From the Diaries of Mormon Pioneer Women edited by Paula Kelly Harline)


Polygamy in America is mainly associated with the early history of the Mormon Church and considered to be a quaint artifact of church history that was jettisoned in 1890 when LDS President Wilford Woodruff delivered the Manifesto ending plural marriage. Utah became a state in 1896 after what Latter Day Saint church historians refer to as "The Great Accommodation". However, this decision rocked the foundations of families unwilling to discontinue the practice. The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints is usually thought of in terms of the mainstream church in Utah, but even during its' formative years, had hundreds of splits and schisms.

This complicated issue revolves around legal, economic, and social factors that push the limits of religious freedom and thwart the civil rights of women and children in the United States. Polygamist communities scattered through Utah, Idaho, Arizona, Wyoming, Montana, South Dakota, Texas, Nevada, and further north in Bountiful, British Columbia have existed since the 1890's. Polygamists settled in Mexico and created their own colonies that experienced a descent into murderous cult insanity courtesy of the infamous Ervil LeBaron, who targeted a rival polygamist sect called The Apostolic United Brethren and had their leader Rulon Allred assassinated. Ervil LeBaron didn't hesitate to kill his own family members who wouldn't bend to his demented will. Following the deaths of the five LeBaron brothers, residents of Colonia LeBaron settled into peaceful prosperity after a generation of violence subsided, but then had to deal with new threats, such as being targeted for kidnapping and extortion by the local drug cartels.

While some polygamists try to maintain their privacy, others have taken their message to reality TV after HBO's drama Big Love ended. (What used to be) The Learning Channel (TLC) broadcasts Sister Wives and the now cancelled My Five Wives, which extols a pro-polygamy message through the gritted-teeth smiles of plural wives claiming that polgamy has many benefits. TLC, in an effort to present another perspective also aired the short-lived reality series, Escaping the Prophet, hosted by activist Flora Jessop who struggled for years to extricate her younger sister Ruby Jessop from an arranged marriage. A&E also airs a reality series called Escaping Polygamy, which features escaped young women trying to help others leave the notorious Kingston Clan, who have been targeted by the state of Utah for decades, due to fraud and blood curdling abuse of women and children.

Fundamentalist Mormon groups keep making headlines through the crimes of leaders like Warren Jeffs who made the FBI's Ten Most Wanted List for performing and partaking in child marriages until he was arrested while on the run with one of his 80 wives. Jeffs also sent his followers to Eldorado, Texas, where they constructed a Waco-style composed of displaced women and children who had been separated from their families in Arizona and Utah. In a showdown between the FLDS and local law enforcement, numerous atrocities and abuses came to light, but in the end, the state of Texas backed down and returned the children to their community. Jeffs is serving a life sentence for a multitude of crimes, including marrying the twelve-year-old daughter of his former bishop and now convict Merril Jessop.

In current headlines, Winston Blackmore, a fundamentalist Mormon leader in Bountiful, British Columbia is on trial for polygamy and the human trafficking of underage "brides. Blackmore who is married to 26 women and the father of 108 children is attempting to turn the tables on prosecutors with a constitutional challenge to Canadian polygamy laws.

For a history of  Mormon polygamy, I recommend reading Jon Krakauer's extraordinary book Under the Banner of Heaven: A Story of Violent Faith and private investigator Sam Brower's book Prophet's Prey: My Seven Year Investigation Into Warren Jeffs and the Fundamentalist Church of Latter Day Saints. Brower has helped former members leaving the FLDS get justice against criminal activities. The topic of polygamy encompasses more than marriages between a man and multiple women, but the underlying issues are the toll the practice takes on women's emotions, the pressure on men to provide for multiple families, and the abuse and neglect children suffer due to the practice.

These isolated fundamentalist splinter groups developed a culture of secrecy and a persecution complex that fostered exploitation and abuse of their isolated members. As this religious subculture of America comes into the light, the publishing world has taken note of these events and given survivors of these famous families a platform to share their stories.

Novels

Amity and Sorrow by Peggy Riley

A Circle of Wives by Alice LaPlante

Daredevils by Shawn Vestal

Down From the Mountain by Elizabeth Fixmer

For Time and All Eternities by Mette Ivie Harrison

I Love You More by Jennifer Murphy

A Killing In Zion by Andrew Hunt

The 19th Wife by David Ebershoff

The Lonely Polygamist by Brady Udall

Riders of the Purple Sage by Zane Grey

A Serpent's Tooth by Craig Johnson

Sister Wife  by Shelley Hrdlitschka

Memoirs

Escape by Carolyn Jessop

Favorite Wife (ebook) by Susan Ray Schmidt

Fifty Years in Polygamy: Big Secrets and Little White Lies by Kristyn Decker 

God's Brothel by Andrea Moore-Emmett 

Lost Boy by Brent Jeffs

The Polygamist's Daughter by Anna LeBaron

The Polygamous Wives Writing Club: From the Diaries of Mormon Pioneer Women  edited by Paula Kelly Harline 

Predators, Prey, and Other Kinfolk: Growing Up In Polygamy by Dorothy Allred Solomon 

Shattered Dreams: My Life As a Polygamist's Wife by Irene Spencer

The Sound of Gravel: A Memoir by Ruth Wariner

Stolen Innocence: My Story of Growing Up In a Polygamous Sect, Becoming a Teenage Bride, and Breaking Free of Warren Jeffs by Elissa Wall

The Witness Wore Red: the 19th Wife Who Brought Polygamous Cult Leaders to Justice by Rebecca Musser



Thursday, February 23, 2017

Blunt, Sarcastic, Inappropriate: A Reading List Suggested by the Works of Carrie Fisher

There were too many painful losses to count in 2016, and the death of Carrie Fisher was among the most painful for me. I’ve never seen any of the Star Wars movies–-I never got around to it as a kid and now it’s just fun to watch people’s horrified reactions when I tell them I’ve never seen the iconic films. I read her memoir, Wishful Drinking, the year I got sober. I related to Fisher on many levels–-as a recovering alcoholic, as a person who has learned not to be ashamed of her depression, as someone who is really and truly obsessed with her dog, and as a woman who has always found humor in the blunt, the sarcastic, and the inappropriate. So inspired not just by Wishful Drinking but her entire life, here are 10 non-fiction books I think the Great Carrie Fisher, Our Misfit Queen, would appreciate. 
~Katie MacBride, "A Non-Fiction Reading List In Honor of Carrie Fisher"


To many, Carrie Fisher was first and foremost an actress and Hollywood royalty. To others, like us, Carrie Fisher might have first come to our attention as Princess Leia, but we'd come to think of her as an engaging writer with a dry wit who'd penned some scathing social commentary based on her own life experiences. You can find most of her books, fiction and non-fiction, in the library catalog. She was also  a screenwriter and script doctor. But she always had a distinctive point of view.

In everything she wrote, she was a character. Our eResource NoveList describes Carrie Fisher thusly:
In both fiction and memoir, Carrie Fisher captivates readers with candid, insightful, funny revelations about the difficulties of celebrity life. Her humor ranges from amusing to darkly humorous as she relates characters' (and her own) struggles with relationships, addictions, and mental health. Even in the worst situations there is bittersweet emotion, a sense of thrill in survival by being not quite sane. Fisher's personal voice is witty, as is that of her heroines who are often sarcastic or sassy. Though drawn from her real life, scenes often resemble high-drama.
When she was cruelly taken from us too soon in December, we lost a voice that was "funny and sharp and witty even as she was laying her soul wide open," a generous soul who was also "a fervent activist who spoke openly about her own struggles with mental health and addiction." Inspired by the Katie MacBride reading list quoted above, we've tried to find other writings that echo some part of her voice, the wry humor in the face of adversity, the warts-and-all acceptance of family, negotiating celebrity, a willingness to share her highs and especially her lows with the world, the unflinching courage to speak truth to power (as Tavis Smiley explains it, "comforting the afflicted, and afflicting the comfortable"). Can you think of other titles? Let us know in the comments!

STAR WARS: RETURN OF THE JEDI (1983) - FISHER, CARRIE; HAMILL, MARK. Photography. Britannica ImageQuest, Encyclopædia Britannica, 25 May 2016.
quest.eb.com/search/144_1475199/1/144_1475199/cite. Accessed 8 Feb 2017.
 
 
Notes From the Underwire: Adventures From My Awkward and Lovely Life by Quinn Cummings


Fisher herself, meanwhile, would like it to be reported that she was drowned in moonlight, strangled by her own bra. The joint public memorial for Carrie and her mother, Debbie Reynolds, will be in Los Angeles on March 25th. 


Debbie, Todd & Carrie. Photographer. Britannica ImageQuest, Encyclopædia Britannica, 25 May 2016.
quest.eb.com/search/115_2842483/1/115_2842483/cite. Accessed 8 Feb 2017.

Saturday, January 7, 2017

New & Novel: Hotels in Fiction & Film

A shoebox-sized hotel room less than two metres wide and costing 8,000 Yen ($80.00) in central Tokyo, Japan, Asia. Photography. Britannica ImageQuest, Encyclopædia Britannica, 25 May 2016.
quest.eb.com/search/151_2570146/1/151_2570146/cite. Accessed 30 Dec 2016.
The hotel is a seductive setting for a writer. It houses a wide spectrum of people who do not know each other, yet who spend nights under the same roof and are affected by one another's behaviour in ways they may not be conscious of: they hear each other's bathwater draining away, they catch snippets of conversations in the lifts. A couple in a hotel lobby might be lifelong partners, or lovers making the most of anonymity. A gang of three who arrive at 2am might be business colleagues who have just closed a deal in a different time zone, or murderers who've recently disposed of their victim.
~Mark Watson, "The top 10 hotel novels"

Hotels are fascinating places, and you don't have to be staying at an iconic establishment like the Chelsea Hotel or the Waldorf-Astoria, bunking with Ernest Hemingway and Martha Gellhorn, staying at a rundown rooming-house with Ginsberg and Burroughs, or visiting the hotel at the end of the line for the Orient Express or the Ritz in Paris to appreciate the experience, whether you are relaxing in the lap of luxury or a checking in at a more prosaic lodging. (Although, even in New Mexico, you can stay at historic hotels, such as the Mabel Dodge Luhan House in Taos and the El Rancho Hotel in Gallup, and you can visit the Belen Harvey House Museum.) We have all heard stories about a variety of unusual hotel experiences, from meeting celebrities in the elevator to hotels finding 80 prosthetic limbs left by guests in one year to finding someone had marked up the walls of the room with "I'm watching you" in glow-in-the-dark pen, and don't we all know about refilling bottles in the minibar with water and tea and not to sleep on the bedspread?

We are reading The Woman In Cabin 10, which takes place on a cruise ship - similar to the hotel environment, but even more of a hothouse, since passengers are stuck together for the duration - and we're already thinking of the "upstairs, downstairs" view.  The interplay between passengers is interesting, but how will the staff below decks become involved? If you want to find out more about what happens behind the scenes at your favorite hostelry, try reading one of these non-fiction books:

Hotel Life: The Story of a Place Where Anything Can Happen by Caroline Field Levander & Matthew Pratt Guterl

Heads In Beds: A Reckless Memoir of Hotels, Hustles, and So-Called Hospitality by Jacob Tomsky

How May We Hate You?: Notes From the Concierge Desk by Anna Drezen and Todd Dakotah Briscoe 

But we digress. Hotel guests can certainly get up to a fair amount of mayhem, and stories from staff do indicate that people do things in their hotel room that they wouldn't do at home. So, take a vacation from your life and get away from it all with these books and movies set (all or in part) in hotels, and see how wacky (or disturbing!) it can get!

Travelers Rest by Keith Lee Morris 

At Bertram's Hotel: A Miss Marple Mystery by Agatha Christie 

A Gentleman in Moscow by Amor Towles 

Security by Gina Wohlsdorf 

The Bad News Bible by Anna Blundy 

In the Kitchen by Monica Ali

The Lady Matador's Hotel by Cristina Garcia
 
Hotel Vendome by Danielle Steel 

A Perfect Waiter by Alain Claude Sulzer 

Hotel World by Ali Smith 

The Dollhouse by Fiona Davis 

Heartbreak Hotel by Deborah Moggach

Belle Ruin by Martha Grimes

The Hotel Riviera by Elizabeth Adler


At His Service by Suzanne Rock 

She's Not There by Joy Fielding

The Mayakovsky Tapes by Robert Littell

French Coast by Anita Hughes 

Silver Bay by Jojo Moyes

Winter Street by Elin Hilderbrand 

The Beautiful Ruins by Jess Walter
 

DVDs




The Hangover

The Trip

The Best Exotic Marigold Hotel

Lost in Translation

Fawlty Towers

Grand Hotel

5 to 7

Ocean's Eleven

A Five Star Life
 

Links

15 Elaborate Pop Culture Themed Hotel Rooms [Mental Floss]

The World's 10 most legendary luxury hotels [CNN]

18 wacky hotels in the United States [CNN]

The coolest hotel in every state (and DC!) [Thrillist]

New York, USA: Five unusual hotel experiences you'll never forget [Traveller]

The Craziest Things That Happened at Chateau Marmont [Complex]

10 Things You No Longer See in Hotels [Mental Floss]

14 of the Coolest Hotels in the World 2015 [Where Cool Things Happen]

Saturday, October 3, 2015

Memoirs in Verse

An examination of poetry memoirs for young readers uncovers a wide variety of approaches and themes. Many writers have found poetry to be the ideal vehicle for exploring issues of culture, ethnicity, and race. Others have framed difficult subject matter, such as personal trauma and family problems, in the form of poem memoirs. ...[A]dult writers have used poetry to capture coming-of-age experiences in their growing-up years.
~Sylvia M. Vardell, "Memoirs in Verse", Booklinks April 2015

We've come across novels and memoirs in verse with a lot more frequency lately - Jacqueline Woodson won the National Book Award for Young People's Literature for her memoir in verse last year, and Thanhha Lai won the same award for her memoir in 2011. We know that all ages are reading Young Adult these days, and don't ignore novels in verse - there are a lot of good ones out there! But why not start with a memoir?  Thanhha Lai, who has since written another children's book in a traditional narrative style, says this about writing her memoir in verse:

I have very specific reasons for writing in prose poems for "Inside Out And Back Again." You know, for years and years and years I could never get the voice right and I was working on this other novel. And finally one day I'm standing on a playground at 110th in Central Park and suddenly all these images started coming back to me. It would be sharp, quick images, like red and yellow hot dogs. And I realized, you know, I'm back inside the mind of that little girl who's standing on a playground in Montgomery, Ala., when I first entered this country. And I thought that's my voice. And I didn't know it was called prose poems and I had no idea tons of writers have been writing like this for years. This just tells you where my brain is. I thought that's how I'm going to convey that she's thinking in Vietnamese.

Take a look at some of the memoirs in verse in the library catalog, aimed at a variety of age groups, and see how you feel about their use of poetry to find their voice and capture their experiences.

Brown Girl Dreaming by Jacqueline Woodson (J)

Enchanted Air: A Cold War Memoir by Margarita Engle (YA)

Calling the Doves = El canto de las palomas by Juan Felipe Herrera  (J, international collection)

House of Houses by Pat Mora

Inside out & Back Again by Thanhha Lai (J)

How I Discovered Poetry by Marilyn Nelson (YA)

A Movie In My Pillow = Una pelicula en mi almohada by Jorge Argueta (international collection)


Under the Mesquite by Guadalupe Garcia McCall (YA)

Honeybee: Poems & Short Prose by Naomi Shihab Nye (J)

Becoming Billie Holiday by Carole Boston Weatherford   (YA)

Like poetry? Don't forget to check out our Poetry LibGuide!
 

Thursday, September 10, 2015

Off the Derech



For memoir lovers, there is yet another genre to enjoy: Ex-Frum Memoirs. A wave of ex-Hasidic writers have emerged to share their personal stories of life after leaving the insular world of Hasidism. For members leaving these communities, the challenges include insufficient education, language barriers, and crushing custody and divorce battles.

The first memoir I was introduced to was Leah Vincent's memoir, Cut Me Loose: Sin and Salvation After My Ultra-Orthodox Girlhood. This riveting memoir was impossible to put down, so I simply gave up and read it in a single sitting. Vincent details her life as a rabbi's daughter in the ultra-Orthodox Yeshivish community and the events that propelled her into the secular world, where she pursued a master's degree at Harvard. Vincent doesn't shirk from sharing her family's heartless rejection, the following years of isolation, and psychological torment that included self-injury and sexual exploitation . However, this is also a testament of perseverance and realness, when conformity isn't an option. Leah Vincent also became a member and board member of the non-profit Footsteps, a non-profit dedicated to helping men and women "Step Off the Derech" (path). 

The next set of compelling memoirs I discovered were Deborah Feldman's memoirs. Feldman was raised by her grandparents in the Satmar Hasidic dynasty, after her mother left and her disabled father was unable to care for her. Feldman poignantly conveys her sense of isolation and longing through her reminiscences of childhood literature, the reading of which was a borderline subversive act in her community. The breaking point for Feldman came in an arranged marriage and a tightening vise of expectations and restrictions. Following the birth of her son, Feldman courageously left her community with her son and managed to do something that most women in her position are unable to do; retain custody of her child and obtain a divorce. Unorthodox: The Scandalous Rejection Of My Hasidic Roots, details her self-actualization through education, free-thinking, and the chutzpah to be herself. Her follow up memoir Exodus, is a refreshing and liberating reading experience that allows us to follow her on a pilgrimage of self-discovery and travels through Europe, where she pays homage to her beloved grandmother by visiting her village in rural Hungary. 

Shulem Deen is the founder and editor of the blog Unpious, and author of the outstanding memoir, All Who Go Do Not Return, a revelation about the particular heartbreaks a man can face in the Skverer sect, where his roles as husband and father were usurped, due to his intellectual curiosity and questioning that branded him an apostate. Deen's first so-called transgressions came merely from listening to the radio, visiting a public library, reading encyclopedias and then bringing a computer and TV into his home. Deen's excerpt of his book in Salon.com "This Is How Lost My Faith: Science Helped, Yes - But Finally I Accepted the Holy Texts Were Written by Man" sums up his experience as a non-believer, who has to honor his authentic self and embark on a new path, gathering new found values along the way.

Shalom Auslander is a remarkable essayist and his fiction is bitingly funny. His memoir Foreskin's Lament recounts his rebellious upbringing in an ultra-Orthodox, exceedingly dysfunctional family. Auslander's anxious childhood concept of G-d is a temperamental, smiting, and adversarial entity. His humor is reminiscent of David Sedaris, but infused with a blistering sarcasm that readers can live vicariously through. His short stories Beware of God and novel, Hope: A Tragedy is like enjoying Woody Allen's short stories with an even sharper edge.

More books about Hasidism:

Here and There: Leaving Hasidism, Keeping My Family by Chaya Deitsch

The Religious Thought of Hasidism:Text and Commentary translated and edited by Norman Lamm